Dinner for Pops

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My brother John and his girlfriend Brittany hosted a meal for Dad this past April. I helped make Apple Crisp, because that’s my favorite dessert. Dad’s getting up there in age and I do wonder what kinda of role I’ll have to play. John and Brittany watch over him and dinners like this is a good way to care about a person.

Distance defined how I perceived my relationship with Dad. It’s great to see him smile around my brother and their son Milo. Small things have big effects, I assume. That day was a good reminder. Relationships shouldn’t be fixed points in time. Someday soon or now, I will need to be more active in his life instead of pretending he’s not part of it.

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Face-off.

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20140406_DSF1249It’s October and looking at these snowy images–ugh.

 

Walking with Friends

I recently took part in an Out of the Darkness community walk. It was filled with people who have been affected by suicide. The amount of support was humbling and reassuring. I ran into familiar faces, amazed to learn they had lost someone to suicide. The company of friends eased the pain of loss in an experience we shared.

The day was filmed with my trusty camera but I did manage to capture these few stills.

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I lost a family member to suicide. Losing someone that way leaves so many questions that will never be answered.

Sarah

20140929_THO9528I said goodbye to my friend Sarah a few days ago. Sarah’s an explorer, raised in Norway and rural Minnesota, her family in both countries. So off she goes back to Norway, pursuing the next chapter of her life. I’m thankful for the adventures we’ve had over the years and the cheesy ones yet to come. :)

 

Visiting With Michael & Roy: Crookston, Minnesota

Sometimes all you have are a few short moments with family. Eric and I got to see Michael and Roy’s home in China years ago. This time, they both could visit our small patch of humanity. The world feels like an abstract concept, visiting people who live so far away, an illusion. Conversations pick up feeling all too familiar, despite years apart–we’ve aged. I still feel a sense of sameness, wondering if the core that defines a person never wavers.

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Roy Bergeson

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